“People are amazing creators. While WINNERs ALWAYS CREATE A WAY, QUITTERs ALWAYS CREATE EXCUSEs. When you reach an obstacle or encounter a problem, do you create a way and move forward, or do you find a legitimate excuse and turn backwards?” – Dan Ekoko
It’s another Monday and some hours to start a new month. Today, I want to conclude the piece I started last week on ‘Overcoming Obstacles.’ It’s my heartfelt prayer and hope that you be empowered to rise above all obstacles and barriers standing between you and the success you seek in the new month that is before us.
Tips for Overcoming Obstacles
Obstacles can be complex, difficult and sometimes overwhelming. A useful technique for overcoming complex obstacle is to break down what you need to do to overcome the obstacle into small steps. When a given difficult situation, challenge or problem is broken into bite-sized chunks, it is easier to see the patterns and tools to apply and the actions that needs to be taken.
STOP. Yes STOP!
Stop simply means take a break, take a step backwards, and Observe carefully so you can assess the situation logically.
To be open minded means being flexible and ready to explore new ideas and new solutions. There’s more than one way to achieve your goal. There’s always more than one solution to every problem. Be willing to consider different ways to reach your goal. The way you have done things in the past may not always work for all situations. As an inventor, Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.” Whenever you face an obstacle, be open to all possibilities!
Change Your Perception.
Of course nobody wants to face obstacles, but the truth is there will always be obstacles on our paths. Whatever goal you want to achieve will include overcoming obstacles. Expect and accept them as part of achieving the goal. Always have a positive outlook when faced with a difficult problem, challenge or obstacle. Don’t see obstacles as stumbling blocks. Rather see them as stepping stones for progress.
Surround Yourself With Positive Thinkers.
Avoid “Nay” sayers as much as you can. If you’re surrounded with positive minded people, you’ll focus more on achieving your goals even when you are facing difficult times. Build a network of positive minded and resilient people. Build relationships with people that share similar life goal, mission and vision.
Ask For Help.
Getting information from other people can be very helpful in overcoming obstacles. Ask for ideas from others. Ask for help. Ask more than one person. Ask as many times as necessary.
My top tip for overcoming obstacle is having a resilient outlook on life. The universe does not support quitters! God only supports those who possess an airplane attitude.
Despite the current tough times, difficulties and uncertainties in our nation, this is not the time to give up. The situation in today’s Nigeria calls for determination, bravery, resilience, optimism, perseverance and prayers. It does not require looking backwards or looking downwards. It is only from above that you can draw the strength to survive, thrive and succeed. Happy Democracy Day In Advance. God bless you and God bless Nigeria. To your success!
#MotivationalMonday #DanEkoko #OvercomingObstacles
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” – Michael Jordan
Welcome to the start Of another week. It’s my prayer and hope that you be empowered to scale over every obstacle standing hindering you from achieving your goals and aims this week.
What is an obstacle? An obstacle is something that impedes progress or achievement. Henry Ford said “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” You have dreams. You are excited! You set goals; you devise plans and start working to make your dreams a reality. Then you run into a problem – an obstacle. = You set goals and have dreams you want to fulfil. You are excited about life and what you want your life to be. You start the work to make your dreams a reality. Then you run into roadblocks.
How do you react when you face obstacles?
Do you give up or do you find a way through?
How do you see obstacles?
Your perception of Obstacles is the thin line between succeeding and failing; between winning and quitting. To some people, obstacles mean the world is conspiring against them. Some others see obstacles as threats. Still others see obstacles as meaning they have failed and cannot succeed. To such persons, “There is no way forward.” To some other people, obstacles simply mean a puzzle to solve. They see obstacles as an opportunity to learn, grow and make progress. Whenever, we’re faced with problems and barricades on our paths, we have three options: Quit & turn around; work around the barricade or find alternatives.
It’s easier to choose the first option – Quitting. And a lot of people actually do. However, the key to your desired destination is the second option: Don’t give up! Find a solution and keep going. The success you seek will be achieved on the platform of courage. So, have the courage to go all-in and make your dreams a reality, because if you want something badly enough, you’ll find a way to make it happen. Anything worth having won’t come easily.
Remember, the problem is not that there are obstacles. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that facing obstacles is a problem. Next week I will conclude the series by sharing tips on how to overcome obstacles on your path to realizing your goals. To your success! #MotivationalMonday #DanEkoko #OvercomingObstaclesRead More
Welcome to a brand new week. I pray the new week bring you opportunities for growth and success. Today, I share with you the story of the rat trap in the farm house. A rat looked through a crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife opening a package. What food might it contain? He was aghast to discover that it was a rat trap. Retreating to the barnyard the rat proclaimed the warning; “There’s a rat trap in the house, a rat trap in the house!”
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, “Excuse me, Mr. Rat, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it.” The rat turned to the pig and told him, “There’s a rat trap in the house, a rat trap in the house!” “I am so very sorry Mr. Rat,” sympathized the pig, “but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured that you are in my prayers.”
The rat turned to the cow. She said, “Like wow, Mr. Rat. a rat trap. I am in grave danger. Duh?” So the rat returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer’s rat trap alone. That very night a sound was heard throughout the house, like the sound of a rat trap catching its prey. The farmer’s wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see that it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer’s wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital. She returned home with a fever.
Now everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the barnyard for the soup’s main ingredient. His wife’s sickness continued so that friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer’s wife did not get well. She died, and so many people came for her funeral that the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide meat for all of them to eat. And the mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.
Lessons To Learn:
The next time you hear that someone is facing a problem and think that it does not concern you, remember that when there is a rat trap in the house, the whole barnyard’s at risk ~ when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk.
We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.
Each of us is a vital thread in another person’s tapestry.
Our lives are woven together for a reason.
Ignoring the needs of the most vulnerable amongst us often produce grave consequences for the rest of us.
To your success! #MotivationalMonday #AllForOneAndOneForAll #DanEkokoRead More
Let’s kick start the 3rd Monday of the year with this Bill Copeland quote: “The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” A Goal is an end toward which effort or ambition is directed. A successful year begins with goal setting. Goal setting involves identifying something that you want to accomplish and establishing measurable goals and time frames to reach them. Success and goal setting go hand-in-hand.
Setting SMART goals provide a blueprint for our lives and keeps us in the direction that would lead to the realization of our dreams. There are eight different areas of life that you need to set specific goals in 2018. This includes – physical and health, social, family, personal development, financial, career and work, educational and spiritual goals. Below are six tips that could be helpful in achieving success in these areas.
Tip #1: Break it Down!
The bigger a goal looks, the more it creates fear. It’s wiser and better to break your big goals into a sequence of smaller ones. The smaller the goal the easier it is to achieve.
Tip #2 Make it S.M.A.R.T
Make your goals fit the SMART criteria. SMART is a best practice framework for setting goals which is an acronym for: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-bound.
Tip #3 Write It Down!
Write your goals down. Those who wrote down their goals accomplished significantly more than those who don’t.
Tip #3 Tell someone
Tell someone about it. You can involve your family and friends in helping you stay on track towards the achievement of your goals.
Tip #4 Stay Persistent
Working to achieve your goals will certainly come with challenges, difficulties, disappointments and frustration. Whatever the challenges you encounter as you pursue your dreams in 2018: Stay Persistent!
Tip #5 Keep a Record
It’s important to track your progress weekly, monthly, quarterly etc. Take time to review your goals – write out what worked, what didn’t, why it didn’t and how you can do better.
Tip #6 Celebrate!
Finally, celebrate. Yes, whenever you reach a goal – celebrate it! Remember to also say “Thank You” to people that helped you achieve it. Then go back to the goals that are yet to be achieved.
As we press forward in 2018, use all these tips to navigate your goals. Remember: Without clearly defined goals, you can spend the entire 2018 running up and down never achieving any worthwhile results. Are you ready to tackle 2018 head-on? Set your goals! Set Your Sails and Go! To your success! #MotivationalMonday #MakeTheYearCount #DanEkokoRead More
“Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors” — African Proverb.
Another Monday is here. Today, I conclude the series I started last week on ‘Adversity.’ As I shared in my earlier post: Adversity is a difficult or unpleasant situation; an unfortunate event or circumstance; a condition marked by hardship, calamity or distress. Adversities are part of life. We all encounter tough situations, challenges, difficulties and at times, life-threatening moments. It is very easy to get caged in the self-pity, life is not fair, or ‘why me?’ traps. When we do this, we fail to recognize the opportunities for wisdom and growth that accompany adversity. The sooner we realize this, the less we will all struggle with the ‘why me’ mentality, self-defeating mindset and unproductive thoughts. People react differently to adversity.
People choose different routes when faced with adversity. Some people turn to alcohol and drugs, stealing, or physical violence. Some people even consider suicide. Why do some people’s life fall apart in the face of adversity? While other people thrive regardless of the adversity they come against? Is it genetics, luck, destiny, determination, resilience or willpower? Growing up from a poor family, I struggled with poverty and hardship. Michael Jordan said “Obstacles (Adversity) don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”
TIPS FOR OVERCOMING ADVERSITY:
*Accept that adversity is inevitable in life. Remind yourself that adversity is part of life. Accepting adversity, helps you overcome it.
*Have an optimistic Mental Attitude. Your thoughts frame the triumphs or tragedies of your life. A positive and winning mindset is essential. You must realize that adversity is not designed to derail you, but to develop you.
*Build Your Internal Resources. Before adversity knocks on your door, work on developing resilience, emotional strength, courage and discipline.
*Build Your External Resources. Build a support system of family and friends. It’s important to surround yourself with positive people who are supportive and encouraging.
*Read Stories Of Successful People. Reading the stories of other people who have been where you are and found a way out or over or through it, will give you the hope and inspiration you need to get through your adversity.
*Get Help! Don’t confront the adversity alone. Get help from people who have the experience and knowledge you need to get through tough times.
*Make Positive Confessions And Affirmations. Say the right things. Avoid negative self-talk.
As we go forward in the week, remember, “Adversity is never a roadblock, but a hurdle, that once cleared puts you one step closer to achieving your desires and dreams. To your success!Read More
It’s another Monday again and the start of another week. May the new week bring out the best in you. Today, I begin a two part series on Adversity. It’s my hope and prayer that it adds positive value to your life as you strive to achieve good success. Adversity is a difficult or unpleasant situation; an unfortunate event or circumstance; a condition marked by hardship, challenges, calamity or distress. We all experience it in one way or another – large and small. They present themselves to us throughout our lives. While some people struggle with poverty and financial problems; some face difficult health problems; others have challenges in their marriage or with their children; some experience loneliness or unfulfilled hopes and dreams. Adversity are hurdles on the track of life. Each hurdle you clear, takes you one step closer to realizing your potentials and reaching your dreams. Adversity is never easy or fun, but can be the launching pad to significance and success.
List Of Some Famous People With Well-Known Adversity to Success Stories:
*Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison before he became the first democratically elected president in South Africa.
*Pastor E.A. Adeboye the Head of RCCG overcame extreme poverty to become one of the most successful preachers in the world and one of 100 Most Reputable People on Earth.
*Abraham Lincoln failed in business, experienced depression and multiple rejections, was defeated eight times in elections before becoming the16th President of the United States of America.
*Born into a childhood of poverty and violence, Chris Gardner overcame homelessness to become a world-class stock broker and one of the richest African-American of our time.
*Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was four years old.
*Kris Carr turned her cancer into a business of hope and healing.
* Franklin Roosevelt developed polio which eventually left him paralyzed from the waist down for the rest of his life. However, he went on to serve as Four-time President of the United States; becoming one of the most respected and memorable presidents in history.
*Overcoming a childhood marked by abuse and poverty, Oprah Winfrey has been ranked the richest African-American of the 20th century, the greatest black philanthropist in American history, and for some time the world’s only black billionaire.
These great men and women demonstrated determination, resilience, persistence, perseverance and tenacity to push past their adversities and succeed. If they could do it, surely the rest of us can muster the same courage and strength to overcome our adversities! Abraham Lincoln once said, “That some achieve great success is proof to all that others can achieve it as well.” Each of us has within the capacity to “bounce back” from adversity.
As we continue in the week, remember, “Adversity is never a roadblock, but a hurdle, that once cleared puts you one step closer to achieving your desires and dreams. To your success!Read More
In recent times, suicide has become a disturbing feature in our society. Youths are not excluded from this worrying trend. Nigerians that were once famously labeled ‘happy-go-lucky people’ now find suicide attractive. Suicide is the act or an instance of taking one’s own life voluntarily and intentionally. It is a tragic event with strong emotional repercussions for its survivors and for families of its victims. People of all ages, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status and physical capabilities are at risk for suicide. It can affect anyone, both the strong and the weak. The World Health Organization estimates that approximately 1 million people die each year from suicide.
What Drives People To Take Their Own Lives?
It is said that for every successful suicide, there are ten men and women who attempt suicide. And for every one of those, there are ten who think of taking their lives, but do not. The leading cause of suicide throughout the world is untreated depression. Experts say 90% of individuals who commit suicide are experiencing a mental health issue at the time of their deaths. However, there are other causes beyond the realm of mental illness that could lead to a person considering taking his or her life. Here are some of the common causes of suicide:
Family History Of Suicide Or Violence.
*Drug addiction/substance abuse.
*Sexual or physical abuse.
*Death of a close friend or family member.
*Relationship problems e.g being in an abusive relationship, divorce or separation, ending a relationship.
*Failing academic performance and poor exam results.
*Unemployment or job loss, challenges at work.
*Social isolation and loneliness are massive contributors to why people take their lives.
Helping someone who wants to commit suicide starts with recognizing the warning signs. From 50% to 75% of those considering suicide will give someone — a friend or relative — a warning sign. Speak up and seek professional help immediately if you think a friend or relative is considering suicide. Through understanding, reassurance, and support, you can keep your loved one alive and help him or her overcome thoughts of suicide.
Behaviors That Signal Suicide:
*Talking about suicide.
*Noticeable mood swings.
*Expressions of wanting to die or be killed; statements such as, “I wish I was never born;” “My family will be better off when I’m gone” etc.
*Withdrawal from family and friends.
*Dangerous or self-harmful behavior.
*Getting affairs in order and giving away possessions. This might include visiting friends, family members and colleagues giving what sounds like a final goodbye.
*Acquiring items that provide the means to take their own life.
Helping Someone Who Wants To Commit Suicide:
The best thing you can do for someone who is considering suicide is to get professional help and intervention.
*Let the person know you care, that he/she is not alone.
*Listen. Let the suicidal person unload despair, ventilate anger.
*Be sympathetic, non-judgmental, patient, calm, accepting.
*Empathize and ask questions in a mild and sincere manner.
*If the person is not comfortable speaking with you, suggest a qualified third party such as a psychologist, doctor, spiritual leader/clergy or counselor.
There is no need to face life’s challenges alone. Whatever issue you may be facing today, remember, there are over 7 billion people in the world today. Someone out there is ready to help you. Have courage to ask for help. To your success!Read More
Welcome to a brand new week. It’s a wonderful week. Great opportunities awaits you. No matter the results you have achieved in the first half, whether good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant; the second half can be better. You can still achieve the goals you outlined in the start of the year. Personally, one of my big secrets as a business person is that I always look behind and ask myself, ‘What did I do wrong yesterday?’ ‘What wrong choice did I make yesterday?’ and ‘What I’m I doing right today?’
I usually take what I’ve learned from the past, especially failures to develop a blueprint for the future. Always I, advice my mentees to do what I call ‘PREP’ – Prepare, Reflect, Evaluate and Plan. I teach them to make reflection a daily, weekly and monthly habit. Successful people are always learning and reflecting on the past to draw lessons that would enable them accomplish desirable results in the future. As a successful entrepreneur, I reflect on every aspect of my life, and from this habit of reflection, I am able to devise success strategies and continuously improve on my achievements.
It’s vital to reflect on your activities in the past weeks and months, reflect on what you’ve been doing right, what’s working and what isn’t. It’s often said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. To make the rest of 2017 better, you must do things differently. An important part of doing things differently is to review the past months and learn from it.
Here are some useful questions to reflect on:
What were your major achievements in the past six months?
Did you accomplish all the goals you set for the first half of the year?
Did you have any significant milestone?
What were your biggest challenges and problem areas within the past months?
What major lessons did you learn?
How would you apply the lessons learned to achieve better results in the months ahead?
What are you particularly grateful for in the first half of the year?
Looking backward and going forward, what will you do differently?
How will you respond to challenges in the months ahead?
Will you give up at the first sign of difficulty or will you press harder?
At the end of 365 days, will you create a long list of excuses for doing nothing with the opportunities the second half will inevitably present to you?
So here’s the big question: ARE YOU READY TO CONQUER THE REST OF THE YEAR? The difference between the first half of the year and the second half of the year is what you do in the rest of the year to achieve your goals. May the rest of the year be your best of the year. To your success! #MotivationalMonday #DanEkokoRead More
Another week is here again. I’m looking forward to a great one. I hope you are? In the course of last week, I saw a sticker somewhere with the inscription: “There is no good success without good mental health.” which inspired my post for this week.
So, you may ask: What Is Good Mental Health?
Mental health is an expression we use every day. But, the term ‘mental health’ is frequently misunderstood by many. ‘Mental health’ is often used as a substitute for mental health conditions – such as depression, anxiety conditions, schizophrenia, and others. One definition of mental illness is a dysfunction within the brain that negatively affects someone’s thoughts, emotions, and/or behaviors and interferes in his/her ability to live a full life in society Mental health is much more than a diagnosis. Its overall psychological well-being—the way you feel about yourself and others as well as your ability to manage your feelings and deal with day-to-day life issues and adapt to change.
Mental health is not a fixed condition. It’s not something a person does or does not have. We can take charge of our mental health and move it up toward a state of psychological and emotional wellness. Having a diagnosable mental illness is outside someone’s control. On the other hand, good mental health, is something that people have the ability to control—to work for and achieve.
“We Don’t Grow When Things Are Easy; We Grow When We Face Challenges.”
Life stressors, challenges and problems are everywhere. Nobody is immune and sometimes these stressors, challenges and problems make us feel awful, worthless and helpless. They can negatively affect our thoughts, our emotions, and our behaviors. However, no matter the nature of the bad and challenging times, we can all take charge of improving our mental health and wellbeing.
Taking care of your mental health is vital to your success, your dreams—and to your happiness. It is just as important as taking care of your physical health. You must be proactive in protecting and preserving it. Here are the “10 commandments of Mental Health” to help you maintain a good mental state, cope and thrive in the midst of stressors and challenges.
#Think positively; it’s easier.
#Cherish the ones you love.
#Continue learning as long as you live.
#Learn from your mistakes.
#Exercise daily; it enhances your well-being.
#Do not complicate your life unnecessarily.
#Try to understand and encourage those around you.
#Do not give up; success in life is a marathon.
#Discover and nurture your talents.
#Set goals for yourself and pursue your dreams.
Take care of yourself! You have the power to take positive steps right now to improve your resilience and emotional health. Don’t wait until you are in a crisis. Don’t wait until tomorrow to Safeguard and make your mental health a priority. Start today! To your success!
#MotivationalMonday #MentalHealthMatters #DanEkoko.
I welcome you to the start of the year. It is going to be a phenomenal year for you. The New Year is gradually unfolding. This is the time when most of us reflect on the past year and make all kinds of resolutions for the New Year. Proper preparation and planning at the onset of the Year allows success to come easier and gives a superb head start. Personally, I usually take what I’ve learned from the past year to develop a blueprint for the New Year. I never fail to set aside the beginning of every year to do what I call ‘PREP’ – Prepare, Reflect, Evaluate and Plan.
To make 2017 better than your previous years, you must do things differently. An important part of doing things differently is to review the past year and to learn from it. Here are some questions to ponder:
How well did you do in 2016?
What were your major achievements?
Did you accomplish everything you set out to do?
Did you have any significant milestones?
What were your biggest challenges and problem areas within the past year?
What major lessons did you learn?
How would you apply the lessons learned to achieve better results this year?
Did you procrastinate often in the past year?
What are you particularly grateful for in the past year?
Looking backwards, what will you do differently this year or will it be the same as last year?
Will you look back at the end of 365 days satisfied with your efforts or will it be regrets that you didn’t do enough?
How will you respond to challenges in the months ahead?
Will you give up at the first sign of difficulty or will you press harder in the face of adversity?
Will you allow your fears to determine the level of your success and achievements in 2017?
At the end of 365 days, will you create a long list of excuses for doing nothing with the opportunities the year will inevitably present to you?
So here’s the biggest question: ARE YOU READY TO CONQUER 2017? The year is full of opportunities to learn, grow, create, innovate and succeed. Maximize it! May 2017 be your best year yet. To your success!
#MotivationalMonday #MakeTheYearCount #DanEkoko