“Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors” — African Proverb.
Another Monday is here. Today, I conclude the series I started last week on ‘Adversity.’ As I shared in my earlier post: Adversity is a difficult or unpleasant situation; an unfortunate event or circumstance; a condition marked by hardship, calamity or distress. Adversities are part of life. We all encounter tough situations, challenges, difficulties and at times, life-threatening moments. It is very easy to get caged in the self-pity, life is not fair, or ‘why me?’ traps. When we do this, we fail to recognize the opportunities for wisdom and growth that accompany adversity. The sooner we realize this, the less we will all struggle with the ‘why me’ mentality, self-defeating mindset and unproductive thoughts. People react differently to adversity.
People choose different routes when faced with adversity. Some people turn to alcohol and drugs, stealing, or physical violence. Some people even consider suicide. Why do some people’s life fall apart in the face of adversity? While other people thrive regardless of the adversity they come against? Is it genetics, luck, destiny, determination, resilience or willpower? Growing up from a poor family, I struggled with poverty and hardship. Michael Jordan said “Obstacles (Adversity) don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”
TIPS FOR OVERCOMING ADVERSITY:
*Accept that adversity is inevitable in life. Remind yourself that adversity is part of life. Accepting adversity, helps you overcome it.
*Have an optimistic Mental Attitude. Your thoughts frame the triumphs or tragedies of your life. A positive and winning mindset is essential. You must realize that adversity is not designed to derail you, but to develop you.
*Build Your Internal Resources. Before adversity knocks on your door, work on developing resilience, emotional strength, courage and discipline.
*Build Your External Resources. Build a support system of family and friends. It’s important to surround yourself with positive people who are supportive and encouraging.
*Read Stories Of Successful People. Reading the stories of other people who have been where you are and found a way out or over or through it, will give you the hope and inspiration you need to get through your adversity.
*Get Help! Don’t confront the adversity alone. Get help from people who have the experience and knowledge you need to get through tough times.
*Make Positive Confessions And Affirmations. Say the right things. Avoid negative self-talk.
As we go forward in the week, remember, “Adversity is never a roadblock, but a hurdle, that once cleared puts you one step closer to achieving your desires and dreams. To your success!